Saturday, April 4, 2020

Considering Freedom

April 4, 2020
Tombstone, Arizona

And I thought having a winter home base was weird!

This new reality is beyond strange. For so many reasons.

We have a lot of saved TV programs and watching pre-Corona commercials highlights just how different our world is now. Car and furniture advertisements - we used to be able to stroll through all the choices and buy them! Drug commercials - are people able to get their prescriptions mailed, or is it safe to visit a physician to get new ones? Fortunately we personally are able to do the former, and hopefully the latter won't be necessary for a long time. Restaurants, new movies in theatres, concert tours, and sporting events - we certainly spent (or had the opportunity to spend) a lot of time in crowds of others. It's a wonder this pandemic didn't happen sooner. And of course all those online dating sites - people still have the online access, but that "getting to know you from afar" stage is going to be much longer now!!

In our post-Corona world commercials are much more limited. And sensitive to our new reality. No bears singing about how their "hinies clean" since we can't find toilet paper! Of any brand!

We're enjoying our sunsets and wide open spaces, continuing to be grateful for where we've so recently landed. Having Ezra and his parents here is an added blessing, time we've been given that would not have happened otherwise. 



A rare red sky over Sheepshead in the Dragoon Mountains.

Sure glad we got a big recliner!

Building with Daddy.

The big bubble wrap is always more fun than whatever was in the box.

Asking the ants where they're going.

Enjoying quiet cuddle time.
Making mud prints is good clean fun! All gone the next day.

TV watching buddies.
One warm evening sans wind, PopPop builds us a fire to enjoy in the setting sun. Dinosaur beans for dinner and marshmallows for dessert make for a perfect outdoor evening.


Ezra prefers his own plank chair by the fire.
Soon it's his outdoor bed. Less appealing when the sun went down :-)
People have already started asking "What's the first thing you want to do when this is over?" You know who is asked that question?  Prisoners. 

Which brings home the reality of what all of us have temporarily lost. Our freedom. We're staying safe and are able to get food and basic supplies. Many are still fully employed, and either staying at home or performing essential services. We can still do a lot.

But we can't do everything we want to. Can't go anywhere we want - can't go most public places. Can't see our friends. Can't see our family. Can't buy everything we want even though we might have the money. We just can't.

In some large cities, in counties and states, people are fined or arrested for violating sheltering in place rules. Some European countries require permits for leaving home, and those are only given for specific reasons. 

And we have no release date. Freedom will return in the future, but we don't know when. Unsettling at the very least.

If you've visited the Japanese Internment Camp, Manzanar, in the Eastern Sierras of California you may have thought - wow, "they" didn't have it so bad. Food, shelter (inadequate, but shelter), education, entertainment, security, gardens, weddings and births, stores, even a newspaper.  Beautiful, natural surroundings.

But they didn't have their freedom. And they didn't know how long it would be before they did. It mattered a lot.

Our situation isn't as extreme and everything we own wasn't taken from us, but it does raise the issue of how completely unreal this is for all of us who have never experienced a lack of freedom (since we moved out of our parents' home). And how much it matters.

On top of the fear of the actual virus for those most at risk, and the hit on individual finances, this impact on our freedom takes its toll. Some are resentful, some look for answers to the "when" question to lessen their stress, and still others are rebellious to the detriment of everyone's health.

I don't imagine I'm the only one considering what freedom really means, along with all the things most important to us. I'm confident we'll get through this and regain all we enjoyed "before". We'll be grateful for our simple freedoms.  








20 comments:

  1. With the retired life we lead I think we're better prepared to stay at home than some of our friends in different lifestyles. I know some who are biting their nails anxiously awaiting normalcy to return, but it's going to be a different normal. It's been 3 weeks since a dinner out and almost 2 months since I've enjoyed a Chinese meal, one of the first things I want to do is go out to dinner. Thankful our son who's a waiter is still employed.

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    1. I agree that retirees, and fulltimers in particular, are better prepared for the 24/7 togetherness. Not being able to go out and be waited on in a restaurant is definitely one of the freedoms I miss!

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  2. I want to go out to eat--I am so weary of cooking every single meal--Michael gets his own breakfast but I do the rest. Excellent post Jodee! A friend and I were talking this week--what we are doing now isn't much outside our "normal" but that "loss of freedom" is so incredibly unsettling. Most unsettling for us right now is our friend injured in the ATV accident is still in the hospital--two weeks now--his wife can't see him, they are both suffering. The doctors and nurses are busy and don't communicate well. I cannot imagine my husband being in the hospital and my not being right there with him. Very unsettling times.

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    1. We were talking yesterday about how scary it has to be to enter the hospital without family support on site! Especially for prolonged stays. I can't imagine!!

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  3. You have a nice home to shelter in, but you are so right it is the freedom we miss most. Very well said! Ezra is getting to be quite the young man.

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    1. Yeah, it's definitely that we would, it's that we can't :-( Oh yes, he is growing way too fast.

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  4. Our repair business has slowed. Some customers welcome us to their property, although I'm not sure we'd find a place to stay while in their region, others don't want us there right now. We did get quite lucky though because while we're staying at our rental spot in Sacramento, we're fabricating sneeze guards for some of the local hospitals. We're pretty much doing the same as we did before the SIP except, of course, for going out to eat and window shopping.

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    1. So glad to see you're able to maintain orders while being safe. And the sneeze guards will be helpful. We're seeing them at more drive-throughs here.

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  5. We are still getting the Charming ads, Jodee. Go figure. I’m glad they finally told us its a good idea to wear masks to the store. Anything to keep an asymptomatic person from spreading this is a good thing. Now if only everyone....from the top on down...would wear them.

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    1. How frustrating to see those ads :-)))) More and more people are wearing masks while out and about. We've been fortunate not to have needed to be around people for weeks - even our grocery pickup is being super cautious. It would make a difference if those of influence would model the best behavior - ever!

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  6. I made my Dave a mask today to wear to the grocery store and he actually agreed to wear it! That's our new normal. We are fortunate, though, in that we have a restaurant on the premises that is delivering meals so we still don't have to cook much.

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    1. What a treat to have those deliveries!! And it keeps them going as well. Stay safe!

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  7. Glad you have a place to be with family. I am glad I have a safe place to be as well, at least for a while. Loosing my freedom to do and go is extremely difficult. And I am tired of my own cooking.

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    1. I'm glad you've got a place to be for a while. Hope you're able to get to cooler temps as our deserts will be heating up soon!

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  8. Boy did we time things right for this situation. We are so glad we have a wonderful place to wait out the pandemic with endless empty back roads to explore and hike. Luckily, not much has changed for us, well, except Starbucks...closed!! I am learning to grocery shop only once a week instead of every day and I am surviving!! I do feel strange walking around the store and still finding empty shelves in areas. Kind of scary. Glad you have your son, DIL and adorable Ezra with you. Stay well. We will get through this!! And appreciate what we have even more.

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    1. Oh yes, timing is everything!! You definitely have the very best area for large variety of nearby adventures. The family time is an unexpected bonus for us for sure. Yes, we are so appreciative of our circumstances.

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  9. So beautifully expressed, Jodee. Even though we're stranded in a beautiful place, it's so surreal. We've embraced the social distancing guidelines for three weeks now...with no clear end point in sight. We have plenty to keep us busy, but I often feel adrift. I'm missing not only the freedom to continue with our travels, or to go out to eat, or to be with friends...but also the comfort of knowing that we have that freedom. It is so unsettling. I'm so glad you guys are in a safe place at home, and such a gift to have Ezra and family with you! Stay well, friends.

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    1. With the 30 day anniversary coming up quickly that lack of freedom becomes more and more real. The heat will have an impact on that freedom for you as well as us soon. Strange, scary and surreal for sure.

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  10. It's wonderful to "hear" from friends far and wide, to hear what they're doing, seeing, thinking. It's interesting to find things in the back of the freezer and finding a way to make them edible. It's scary to think about the "what if's" and "what will the future look like" when this is over. It's frustrating, as an RV'er, to figure out what to do going forward. It's gratifying to see friends helping friends.

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    1. Yes, so many different considerations in our lives now. I'm glad you have a safe spot to hang for a bit and hopefully you can get across country to the cottage when you're ready.

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